Are you’re struggling to be as successful as you’d like to be? There’s a great chance that a discrepancy exists between your goals and values. If our goals are antithetical to our values, success is all but impossible. We don’t like to behave in ways that are counter to our values. If a mismatch exists, something has to give.
There is always a reason you’re forever missing the mark when it comes to achieving your dreams, your values might be at odds with your goals.
Use these techniques to set goals that support your values:
- List your current values. Have you ever taken the time to examine your values? Most people have never given their values a second thought. This is an issue and is very important because a person’s values guide their thinking abilities, decision-making skills, and actions that you take in all situations.
● Take 30 minutes and list your values. Put them in order of their priority to you. In fact, to make it easier for you try this exercise below borrowed from blog.sellingenergy.com:
Make a list of 20 to 25 personal values. Then make a list of your personal goals. Next, circle 5 goals that are most important to you. Examine how those five values impact your larger goals. Last write out the action steps you need to take to achieve these goals in your everyday life.
After Making Your List and Following the Steps:
● Ask yourself if your behavior is aligned with your values. If your values are not aligned with your behavior, what set of values would actually represent your behavior?
● Most of us have an idealized impression of our intentions, values, and qualities.
- What are you trying to accomplish? What are your goals in life? What do you want to accomplish? Do you want to be wealthy? Get a six-pack? Write a screenplay? Save the whales? Build a real estate empire? The first step to any great success is to identify your objectives.
- How do your current values impact your goals? If your goals and values don’t match, the odds of success are very low without you making a change.
See How Your Goals and Values Impact How You Think:
● For example, if you believe that wealthy people are fundamentally bad, you’ll never accumulate a significant amount of wealth.
● If comfort is a high priority for you, that six-pack will never materialize.
● Do you value having a lot of leisure time? A goal that requires a lot of work isn’t going to happen.
The Perfect Set of Values to Support Your Goals:
- What would be the perfect set of values to support your goals? Imagine you could build a person from scratch that would be perfect for accomplishing your goals. What values and qualities would they possess? How would you be different if you had these values?
● Think about the people you know that have accomplished what you want to accomplish. Ask yourself how would you describe them?
- See how close can you get to harmonizing those values? How well can you rearrange your values to match that ideal set of values? The closer you’re able to come, the greater the odds of your success.
- Reinforce the values that matter. Imagine that your goal is to save $20,000 for a down payment on a home. Let’s suppose that you’ve determined that you need to be someone that values saving money overspending. How can you build this value in yourself and make it a part of you?
Prove What Type of Person You Are:
● Prove to yourself that you’re that type of person: For example, pick up pennies you find on the ground and save them. Cut coupons. Find new ways of dealing with stress other than shopping. Save part of your income as soon as your paycheck hits your bank account.
● When you keep proving to yourself over and over again that you possess a value, those actions will build and reinforce that value.
Are your goals and values a good match? It’s important that they are. When your values and goals are not working together, it’s important to either alter your values or alter your goals. There’s only so much resistance a person can overcome. Success is much easier when your values and your intentions are highly compatible.