One of the major obstacles to maximizing your success and happiness is a lack of self-awareness. You know your friends’ flaws better than they do. However, It’s human nature to not have an accurate view of yourself. We’d rather stick our heads in the sand and act as though we have no shortcomings. We’d prefer to believe that we’re unfortunate rather than take chances or the wrong approach when it comes to success or happiness. Read this post to find out why self-awareness is essential for your success.
Having no self-awareness presents a huge challenge for you, because if you can’t see yourself and your behaviors correctly, how can you grow and make the most appropriate progress? You must be courageous enough to develop a sharp sense of self-awareness. For example, with self -awareness you will feel more connected to others.
Self-Awareness helps in personality development
Self-awareness is a simple tool that gives you the choice over how you feel, how you behave, which people and situations you attract or become attracted to, and what meaning you assign to what happens. Once you have self-awareness of who you are and what you want, you now have choices, you naturally choose what serves you. You will drop the bad feelings and unconscious self-sabotage which will increase your happiness, inner peace, mental clarity, and overall effectiveness.
Below is a problem-solving exercise with some methods I use in my practice with my private clients during their sessions. Answered correctly and thoughtfully you can start to rewire your brain to get a successful cognitive or mental breakthrough awareness. Just remember that change takes time and patience on your part. I cannot stress enough the importance of working through these methods. So take your time and put in the work for this section so you get the benefits of self-awareness.
Try these Methods to learn more about yourself:
- List your values. Taking an hour to identify and prioritize your values will tell you a lot about yourself. You’re bound to find a few surprises if you take the time to do this exercise.
- Write down your goals. Defining what you’d like to have, do, and experience in your lifetime is also very revealing. Most of us are too busy surviving from one day to the next to consider our goals. Make time to determine the type of life you want to experience, and you’ll become more self-aware.
- Keep a journal. There are entire books written about journaling. Read one of my posts here and develop your own journaling process. Writing is different from the incessant chatter happening between your ears all day long. Self-awareness is only a notebook and a pen away.
- Have a heart-to-heart with a close friend. Your friends and family know more about you than you know about yourself. They can see your flaws and strengths quite clearly. Be brave and ask them to tell you about yourself.
- Meditate. If you want to understand your mind, meditate. You’ll be shocked by what you find. Meditation is great for your physical health, emotional health, and self-awareness. Thirty minutes a day will reveal a lot about you.
- Use your imagination. Imagine you’re a fly on the wall and visualize how you interact with others. Remember both stressful and happy experiences. For example: How do you think your coworkers, friends, family, neighbors, and others view you? How do you come across? How do you think a stranger in the store views you?
- Take personality tests. There are many personality and aptitude tests available online, many of them for free. Take these tests and see what they have to say about you. Before dismissing anything that seems way off base, really think about it. Then, ask a close friend if they think the assessment is accurate.
- Identify the traits in others that bother you. What do you dislike about others? What does this say about you? Try to be objective and see if you have these same traits. We are often turned off by people that exhibit characteristics we don’t like in ourselves.
Next, Ask Yourself the Questions below
How self-aware are you? Do you know how others view you? Do you understand your flaws? What are your greatest strengths? In what type of environment do you thrive? What are your values? What are your goals? How did you contribute to the failure of your past relationships?
If you can’t answer these questions quickly and easily, developing greater self-awareness will benefit you. Until you understand yourself well, your life will appear to be determined by forces beyond your control.
However, becoming self-aware is easier said than done. Try as you might break out of this cycle of destruction…you may be (in fact, you probably are) sabotaging yourself without even knowing that you’re doing it! Like all of us, you have deeply held beliefs about yourself, other people, and the way the world works…that cause you to unconsciously sabotage your best efforts.
Even with the best of intentions, and even if you know how you want to think, feel, and act, you still may unknowingly sabotage yourself. One of the ways I found that helped me is this free ebook, “The New Science of Super Awareness” by Bill Harris of the Centerpointe Institute.
This book inspired me, it described a fascinating new way for me to see the human condition, and it’s full of…practical solutions you can use right now to take your life to a whole new level. You can use the book by itself or use it with the methods I gave you in this post.
This book explains why human beings––intelligent, hard-working, motivated people: Overeat, Procrastinate, Live high stress lives, Respond emotionally, Oversleep/Under-sleep, Bounce between highs and lows, Over-react/under-react, Feel baffled by certain situations, Spin in a hamster wheel of thoughts, Loop in resentments, Experience frequent, low-grade depression And engage in a whole slew of other “negative” reactions and habits.
In this groundbreaking, bestselling book, The New Science of Super Awareness, Bill Harris explained all of this, and much more.
Bill summarizes the reason for these negative feelings and behaviors this way: There is a war going inside your brain between your prefrontal cortex and your limbic system. That an overactive limbic system is the source of all those unhealthy, counter-productive habits I listed above…and many, many more.
The prefrontal cortex, on the other hand, is in charge of the good stuff:Executive function, Rational thinking, Learning from experience, Creativity, Willpower, Confidence, Concentration and focus, Impulse control, The ability to set goals and plan for the future, Persistence, Problem solving, The ability to feel and express emotions, and Empathy.
You can see why the prefrontal cortex needs to win this battle! A strong, balanced brain is critical to your happiness, peace of mind, and success in life!
Because of Centerpointe’s relationship with me, you can download a free copy. Super Awareness allows you to create a choice about how you feel and behave, which people and situations you attract or become attracted to…and whether you assign resourceful or non-resourceful meanings to the events of your life.
You’ll also increase your ability to self-regulate, allowing you to make (and stick to) lifestyle choices that will: Improve your health, Slow the aging process, Promote better mental functioning, and Experience Zen-like emotional balance and clarity.
This book is a terrific resource for anyone wanting to improve their awareness and use that awareness to be happier, more productive, and make a difference. Centerpointe is generously offering free copies for a limited time. Just click here to get your copy.
Become more self-aware and regain mastery over your life!